Adoption should be celebrated as a joyous event. My wife’s first job out of college was with a foster care agency, and I remember how ecstatic she said both child and parents were when an adoption was finalized. Family formation is beautiful.

And when two gay men adopt a baby, as Secretary of Transportation Pete Buttigieg and his partner, Chasten, did this September, the media roundly celebrate the event. All children deserve a loving home, and two parents are most often better than one.

But, as it turns out, not all adoptions should be celebrated. If a married straight conservative woman adopts a child, that is bad — at least according to The New York Times and New York Magazine.

Writing in The New York Times, Democratic digital strategist Elizabeth Spiers didn’t appreciate Supreme Court Justice Amy Coney Barrett’s suggestion that pregnant women could avoid “the obligations of motherhood” by giving their babies up for adoption.

“Adoption is not always an unalloyed good,” Spiers, who was adopted, writes. “While pregnant, [women] will undergo the bonding with a child that happens by biological design as an embryo develops into a living, breathing, conscious human. And then that child will be taken away.”

Mothers are not the only victims of adoption, Spiers continues. “Researchers have a term for what children who are adopted, even as infants, may suffer from later in life: relinquishment trauma," she writes. "The premise is that babies bond with their mothers in utero and become familiar with their behaviors. When their first caretaker is not the biological mother, they register the difference and the stress of it has lasting effects.”

Talking to New York Magazine’s Irin Carmon, media consultant and transracial adoptee Angela Tucker also worries about the impacts of adoption on adoptees.

“Adoptees are four times likelier to attempt suicide,” Tucker tells Carmon, “and that’s partly because of the anonymity of our birth parents, because of not knowing our roots, not knowing where we came from.”

“As the adoptee, it really definitely feels like I am a commodity,” Tucker adds. “I’m both deeply desired and wanted, and we’ll do illegal things to get you.”

It's funny that this "we’ll do illegal things to get you" sentiment was never raised in response to Buttigieg's adoption.

I have no doubt that adoption is difficult for all involved — for mothers who feel they have no choice but to let another adult care for their child and for the adoptees who will always wonder how different their lives would have been if their biological parents had kept them.

But these questions exist equally whether or not the adoptive parents are gay or straight. The liberal media help nobody by pretending that only gay adoptive parents should be celebrated.