Wednesday night, I had the privilege of seeing Jordan Peterson in St. Louis on his 12 Rules for Life tour. During the Q&A, Peterson was asked a question about how we can reduce sexual assault. Peterson's response was very similar to what mine has been — here and here, for example:
1.) Don’t get drunk.
2.) Don't have stupid sex.
I know you're immediate reaction already: No drinking and no sex! What planet are you and Peterson on? I concede this solution amounts to putting the genie back in the bottle. Nevertheless, Jordan and I are unequivocally right.
The first article I wrote about the Ford-Kavanaugh fiasco was about alcohol. That’s the first thing I thought of when the whole thing went down — that Kavanaugh's real sin (if you can call it that) was drinking too much in his youth. That was the weak link the Left had to bring him down. Had his background been more squeaky clean, none of this would be happening (the same can be said of Christine Blasey Ford).
The vast majority of sexual assault claims are accompanied by alcohol. One study said 82 percent of incapacitated victims reported being drunk before their victimizations. Another said, "In one-third of sexual assaults, the aggressor is intoxicated." And a staggering 90 percent of rapes committed by an acquaintance involve alcohol.
Alcohol, as Peterson explained and as any Google search will tell you, removes our inhibitions and literally changes the brain, causing us to behave in ways we otherwise wouldn't.
[Also read: Kavanaugh describes group of friends as 'loud, obnoxious drunks' in 1983 letter]
That's not a get-out-of-jail-free card for people who commit assault, sexual or otherwise. But it easily lumps those folks in with drinkers, both male and female, who merely get out of control. Alcohol is the reason college girls often say yes when they want to say no. Many women need alcohol to engage in casual sex.
The second culprit is our lax and foolish standards for sexual behavior. There was a time, as Peterson pointed out, when sexual behavior had cultural restrictions. While not everyone adhered to the standards, it was still a good thing to associate sex with marriage — or at the very least for a committed relationship. Is it possible that those who came before us understood better than we do that once you lift this restriction, all hell breaks loose?
Fifty years after the sexual revolution convinced people that sex is no big deal, that it can be casual if we want it to be and need not carry with it grave repercussions, that revolution has proven to be incalculably wrong. We have pie in our face.
It used to be that STDs and unwanted pregnancy were the main consequences of stupid sex, but even they pale in comparison to what has happened since. From #MeToo to the sexually charged atmosphere on college campuses, the consequences are numerous.
When sex and commitment are extricated, bad things happen. That, along with the effects of alcohol, is the reason we're in this boat. People certainly drank a lot "back in the day," but sexual constraints kept their behavior in check. When you remove that piece and combine it with alcohol, the results are explosive.
Obviously, neither Peterson nor I can make people listen to our suggestion. But abstaining from sex and alcohol, or from one or the other, would be the most effective antidote to reducing inappropriate sexual behavior and assault.
You can call Peterson and me old-fashioned. You can call us out of touch. But you can also call us right.
Suzanne Venker (@SuzanneVenker) is a contributor to the Washington Examiner's Beltway Confidential blog. She is an author, speaker and cultural critic known as “The Feminist Fixer.” She has authored several books to help women win with men in life and in love. Her most recent, The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men & Marriage, was published in February 2017. Suzanne’s website is www.suzannevenker.com.